Snow Speed-Dating

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I SWORE I wouldn’t write about the snow. This day began with yet another storm, and the little cherubs were out of school- yet again. Then it turned to ice. Because it such an easy and common connector, you hear bits of it all the time: at work, while filling up the gas tank, waiting in line at the grocery store.

But while it is a connection, it drives me crazy because it is so fragile, like speed-dating. The snow and rain only touch the surface, and the comments almost act as an anti-conversation, because they are so rote.

Then I came home, and found a request on Facebook to complete a task. One of my friends asked me to write 25 things about myself. At first I was going to blow this off, then I started to think about it. I am a very private person; there are perhaps four people in this world who know that much about me, and I know that I guard things from them. Why not try this?

This is what I came up with:

“25 Things About Me You Really Don’t Care About–Tag Game”

1. I can’t believe people wouldn’t want to know 25 things about me
2. I’ve loved to draw and paint since I could remember
3. My artwork was chosen for exhibition in the Scholastic Art Awards when I was in high school.
4 . Most of my best friends in my life have been male.
5. I was accepted into both Brandeis and The College of the Holy Cross, where I went and flamed out of spectacularly.
6. I love the beach; I love to swim.
7. I’ve never been on a plane, except when my uncle took me aboard a small private one when I was 4.
8. I’m never satisfied with where I am.
9. My daughter had to tell me what a Brazilian wax was.
10. I love what I do (Realtor) but am tired of everyone complaining.
11. I am intrigued by the tech side of this business and how it is going to skew the future of real estate.
12. I loved Inman Connect NYC.
13. The only stitches I have even had besides my back surgery have been from stepping on a wine glass that I had left on the floor.
14. I get migraines.
15. I think intellect is the sexiest attribute.
16. My best part is my shoulders.
17. I am unsure how much the principles of the Secret work, and as soon as you say that, it is your fault they don’t work.
18. I am constantly wondering where I will be next month, next year.
19. I am so unfocused in the morning until I have coffee that I am certain that my children’s AD(H)D comes from me as well as my ex.
20. I love to write.
21. My goals are all focused on production, not money, and I would probably do better to realign my values.
22. We have two dogs, and I am the only one who walks them.
23. One of my daughters will probably always be with me. She has issues that make it unlikely she will be on her own- probably some form of schizophrenia.
24. Working for myself has been the biggest transition I have even made, aside from my divorce.

Many of these were silly, but some were hard to write. And harder still was choosing the 25 people with which to share; it is, after all, a game of tag.

What I thought was interesting was that this interaction all occurred online. These are people with whom I have been building relationships with over the course of the past year. Some I have met in real life, but many I have not, and socialize with them only on Facebook and Twitter. And I would term what we are doing as socializing or relationship-building. It is nothing so sterile as mere networking.

Funny. You hear so much about the superficiality of online relationships, and there is plenty of that, but this week I watched people commiserate about sick children, support each other through various crises, and help one friend through a death in the family.  These aren’t simple, one-dimensional friendships, and with the 25-question game, we are seeking to cement connections.

So, what do you think of this weather?

Oh, and #25:

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